Languages of Love
Love and be loved, the way you and your partner need to be, in the best and most special ways.
Liza of “A Maui Blog”
It’s the love month, a fitting time na mag kwento kwentuhan (to talk story) about love. Have you heard of the Five Languages Of Love? The concept of love languages was developed by Dr. Gary Chapman. The idea is that people express and receive love in certain ways, and knowing your and your partner’s love language will make it easier for you to understand each other and express love better. Now it’s not only limited to partners. This concept of love languages has also been applied on parenting and management. So what are the five love languages? Here they are:
1. Word of Affirmation – If your loved ones’ love language is word of affirmation, it is important for them to hear you say encouraging words like “your idea is great and I believe you can do that” or praise words like “you look very nice in that dress.” Although you can also express words of appreciation in writing, it is very important that you express it to them verbally.
2. Acts of Service – Helping someone, especially when you are not obliged to, means a lot to the person whose love language is acts of service. This is my top love language and I think many Filipinos have this as their top love language as well. We are servants at heart and I mean that in a positive way. We like to help in action. Simple things like preparing breakfast, helping in chores means a lot. The phrase “actions speak louder than words” is applicable.
3. Gifts – For people with this love language, a gift is a token of love. If a person’s love language is gift, that doesn’t mean that he or she is materialistic. The phrase “it’s the thought that counts” is applicable. The gift doesn’t have to be expensive—it can be made, bought or found. The gift is a symbol of the heartfelt thoughts and efforts that comes with the gift.
4. Quality Time – For people whose love language is quality time, time spent means more than gifts, words and action. Just being in each other’s presence is enough to make them feel loved. Time spent together, whether it is watching a movie, eating dinner, strolling in the park, or going on vacation together speaks love to them.
5. Physical Touch – Do hugging, kissing or holding hands make you feel loved? Then physical touch might be your primary language. Physical presence experience via touch is crucial to the relationships of people whose love language is touch. It is not enough to tell them you love them, you have to show it in action by touching them physically. A gentle touch is always appreciated.
As you were reading this article, were you able to identify what your major love language is? Were you able to identify what your loved ones love languages are? You know that even though February is a love month, expressing love is not limited to this month, right?
While you may actually use all five of the languages to express and receive love, each person usually has a primary or more dominant love language (and maybe even a secondary love language at that). But know that there is no right language. Each of the languages are used to communicate love, and dominance of one language depends on your personality.
Liza Pierce of A Maui Blog is an Interactive Media Strategist in Hawai‘i. She started blogging in 2006 and she loves talking story online and spreading aloha around the world. She’s been living on Maui since 1994 and considers Maui her home. A wife, a mother, a friend…and so much more. She loves Jesus; Maui Sunsets Catcher; Crazy About Rainbow; End Alzheimer’s Advocate. Her life is full and exciting here on the island of Maui.
Liza is currently the Interactive Media Strategist with Wailea Realty Corp.